Dear Thelma,

I got to know this guy online five years ago. We messaged each other on and off. At the time I was in love with another guy, so I just treated him as a friend. We finally met each other after a year of keeping in touch through text messaging on and off. He helped me in my work-related matters on and off, but I was kind of cold towards him because I didn’t know him well, and I was in a relationship then. Plus he is totally not my type of guy. Yet colleagues teased me about him, saying that he is nice and helpful and he probably likes me, but I told them off. In addition, he told me he has a sickness; he is like a walking time bomb.